Why Procrastinate? What’s Keeping You From Acting?

workingmom — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:30:07 +0000

Be honest with yourself: procrastination is a real killer. We suffer so much from it, it makes living life like being in a pressure cooker and it is probably the biggest reason that we are not successful. Why do we suffer from this, and much more important, what can you do about it? If you know what I’m talking about keep on reading- this might be your ticket to overcoming this destructive habit and to get out of the pressure cooker.

Why do we procrastinate? Here are the two main reasons.

1. Fear of failure. No one likes to fail, so we think to ourselves, “If I don’t try I won’t have to suffer the feeling of failing.”

2. Fear of succeeding.Think about if for a second and don’t just laugh at me (even if does sound way off!) If you are successful you will have to make huge life style changes. If you become super rich you’ll move out of the neighborhood and have to make new friends. Not too much fun, no? And more than that, if you are successful, people will expect more from you and you’ll have to work harder. Who wants that? Often times this is going on deep down in your head (in a place where you are not even aware that you are thinking like this)

“Makes sense”, you say to yourself, “but what should I do about it?” Unfortunetly there is no magic wand to help us overcome our procrastination and no magic pill. MAGIC PILL, oh yeh, sadly, some people do turn to medicine but this is surely not the answer. It is only temporary, wears off and then you are back to square one, with the added problem of it being a few hours later and the work is still not done! It is a viscous down spiraling cycle! Drugs are not the answer.

What then is the answer; change your mindset. This, unfortunately much easier said than done. There is no easy way to do this.

One way to do it, though, is to sit down and ask yourself the following question, “What is the worst thing that can happen if I succeed/ fail?” By envisioning the worst case scenario, you realize that in many cases, the worst isn’t really all that bad. You should know though, that it might be pretty bad, “If I go on the plane and it crashes…” However, when your realize how infrequently this happens, you’ll see that there is nothing really to worry about.

After you spend a little time envisioning the wost that can happen, start to envision the GREAT FEELING and other benefits that you’ll have when you do finish your chore.

These two thoughts together, increasing your awareness of the benefit and decreasing the pain of doing what you have to do, will help you to finally get a move on things.

In my signature there is a review of a great resource that WILL help you get over your procrastination and may very well change your whole life. Read it and begin to have a happy life.
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When to Start Potty Training – Some Tips

workingmom — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 14:04:52 +0000

Starting potty training is welcomed by some parents and feared by others. This is a time when you must keep your patience, stay positive and think happy thoughts to stop you from getting frustrated.

The most difficult thing in the entire process is knowing exactly when to start potty training. Start your child to early and the process may take longer than it would if you started them at the correct time. So when is the right time? Most children are ready to potty train at around two years of age. But as you know yourself, every child is different. But there are a few signs to watch out for to make the decision to start potty training a lot clearer.

If your child becomes fidgety and uncomfortable in wet underwear and they are capable of letting you know before they want to do a ‘tinkle’ or ‘poopy’, this is an obvious sign. Also, if your child can keep the diapers dry in excess of 2 hours and/or can pull the diapers up and down with no problems, this is an indicator. Another big tell sign is if your child wakes up from nap time with a dry diaper.

But this still does not suggest it will be an easy task to undertake. Some toddlers will happily play in wet diapers. You can ask them if they need the toilet and they will tell you they don’t, even though they do. If this happens, having a playful looking potty chair can help. A potty chair that looks fun to use can promote them to get into the habit of going when needed.

Some toddlers will be easier as they won’t like to be in a wet diaper and they will be very vocal in letting you know that! It only takes a short while for them to get the hang of potty training as they will do anything to avoid being in a wet diaper.

You can also try to introduce some kind of reward system. Every time your toddler performs their duty into the potty, they get a sticker or a candy. Even at this age, the human mind can be enticed by the ‘what’s in it for me?’ attitude.

But above all else, a healthy dose of patience is needed. Just remember that your toddler will learn the ropes. Some learn quicker than others but they all learn in their own time. There will be plenty of mistakes so try not to get angry when they happen as this may only serve to put added stress and pressure on both you and your toddler, which will more likely slow down the learning process.
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